One of These Things is Not Like the Others

I've never been much of a shopper in real life and expected the same in Second Life. At first, that's exactly what occurred, but then a funny thing happened....everything looked good on Alatrina and I mean EVERYTHING. I found myself shopping more and more in Second Life.

That's not to say I quit shopping in real life because after meeting Stone, I found I was also shopping more and more in real life. I really want to look my best for him, but I have always struggled with shopping. Like Al, I have a terrible time imagining an outfit together and god, if you ask me what shoes I should wear, I'm like a deer in the headlights. You can see this in the way I pack for a vacation. 

My sister works very carefully with me, matching this shirt with that pair of pants and let me tell you...that's exactly how I pack; one pair of pants with the shirts that match on top before the next pair of pants. Works really well until you do laundry and then...Uh-Oh! There I stood in Stones closet, eyes watering and lip quivering as I stared at my clothes hanging neatly ...all the pants here...all the shirts there, desperately thinking...what did my sister say went with what?

Thankfully, Stone is very patient; waiting for me to come up with an outfit, helping if I ask for it. A few times I came into the room holding several pairs of shoes with that "help me" look on my face. I admire him and others like him who just seems to know what goes with what. It must be something you're born with and I missed out on the "matching" gene. In Second Life, I, thankfully have people like Stone and my friend Kass who are quite gifted and possess an extraordinary amount of patience where my dressing is concerned.

I was asked by one designer in Second Life whether I was color blind. I had to say no, I just see colors at their very basic. I can't tell you how many times I've described a color to have someone correct me..."purple"...no, that's "violet"..."green"...no, that's "teal"..."red"...no, that's "burgundy". Don't get me wrong, I can get out "light blue" and "dark green" and even "pink" but beyond those simple methods of classifying colors, I'm lost.

As my sister and I shopped in anticipation of Stone's visit in January, I found myself very dissatisfied over everything I tried on and then, standing in the middle of the store...a revelation...what if I'm competing with Al? It was a natural progression from the time Gabs and I were shopping in Las Vegas...she would say "this would look great on Gabs" while I was responding "this would look great on Al"

Stone tells me he see's Al in me...in my mouth and eyes. I don't remember intentionally giving her my physical attributes but I sure wish it worked the other way around! I read on someone's profile that the challenge is to make our Avi's look like us but they also questioned whether the real challenge to look like them. 

So....do we set ourselves up for disappointment by designing our Avi's as we do?

*Note: if you're interested in a new wrinkle free way of packing, watch this video (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=--ZrYtRjYfs) and give it a try....you'll be a convert. To accommodate my missing "matching" gene, I use a hybrid of bundle packing but it is still highly effective.